For several nights in a row now, I’ve been stumbling to my room so tired, that I fall face down, fully dressed, on top of the covers, legs dangling from the side of the bed..so exhausted that I fall asleep and my children are the ones to cover me and kiss me goodnight.. before going off to bed.
No matter, I march on the next day and the next, gotta keep going. Today, something happened to make me pause for a second. While driving home after dropping them off at school, and mentally going through my to-do list, I noticed I was running low on gas. Great, one more thing on my to- do list. Can’t run on an empty tank.
“What about your tank?”
“Wha..? who’s that?..Oh, it’s you”
Everyone, let me introduce my self-compassion voice. She’s new, and her voice is still very low..or is it a he? I haven’t decided on the gender-or the accent for that matter. He’s kind of like my internal Siri. Let’s go with deep throaty Irish accent today 🙂
So, Irish here raises a good point.. What about my empty tank? what about my falling asleep all over the place? huh?
So. I stopped the car downtown, walked to my favourite store, and bought this belt with pink feathers, which I have been wanting for a while. It was the very last one, and on a double sale!
(if you don’t know the significance of this belt, read this, you’ll enjoy it):
Then I went to one of my favourite cafes and had a sinfully delicious breakfast (yes, it involved Nutella). And then..I went home, and did some work to ease my gnawing conscience (I’m not used to this degree of pampering). After that, I exercised, then practiced my new secret hobby # 1 and new secret hobby #2 (I’m a beginner and too shy to tell you what I’m learning).
By the afternoon, when I caught my reflection in the mirror, I swear I looked different. Some colour back in the cheeks and some sparkle back in the eyes.
Hey.. there you are, Wid..
You know, we work so hard at our careers and as mothers and caregivers that it’s hard to stop and take care of ourselves. Days like this are so rare and so special. Do they have to be?
In the end I went back to working on my computer and cooked and read to my children (we finished the last chapter of Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets today..amazing!). I did all I had to do.
And I wrote..It feels like ages since I’ve written for my blog..
I guess I had something to give ..only after filling the tank.